Assume (you know what they say)

Assume (you know what they say)

Over the years I have not only heard the phrase “Don’t Assume anything” but I have spoken it to my Daughter already numerous times.
Assumption means; A thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen without proof.
I recently had two incidences within the past week that led me to do more thinking about how looks can be deceiving and why we shouldn’t assume anything based on appearances. I was in the changing room at the gym for my Monday a.m. swim. I was already changed when another regular came in and started complaining about the benches being in her way. She said, “Oh great, they moved them again”, “I don’t know why they don’t just move them out of here”.
Prior to having health issues I would not have cared and if I had cared I never would have spoken my feelings out loud.
Fibro may have taken so much from me – pain-free days, sleep filled nights – but it did give me the courage to speak up and use my voice.
My reply to her was “I do, they need to be here for people like me who need to sit to get dressed”.
The second situation occurred the other night when my GF and I attended a girls night out spa event. While standing at a vendors table she offered me a hand scrub. I would never turn down a free spa treatment. She applied the scrub lotion and asked that I rub it into my hands. Then all of a sudden I felt this pain on my upper back across my shoulder blades. She had without asking began to use one of those hand held massage tools across my back.
I hollered “Stop”, you can’t do that to me – I have Fibro and my nerves are on fire”. She said she was sorry and then went onto attempt a lighter massage. What part of stop do people not understand? It hurts!!! Don’t touch me!!!
Within a few minutes my FG was standing at the same table with the hand scrub on her, making a sighing sound because it felt so good.
The same thing that caused her to be relaxed caused me to almost be drawn to tears. Why don’t people ask someing if they want to be touched? Don’t Assume!
I think our society still looks at people and believes unless you can physically see someone has an illness or disability that there is nothing wrong and they are healthy.
I push through fighting each day to not let fibro take over my life. There has not been a day in 2 1/2 years where I was pain free. I can’t recall the last time I could go to or get out of bed without it taking mental and physical work.
I work at it so that isn’t so obvious what medical conditoins I battle each day. I don’t use a walker or a wheelchair but at times I can’t stand up or walk without someone’s help or wall support. I don’t have a handicap sign or use an electronic cart at the store but the simple task of parking and walking all the way through the lot or store will wear me out and take hours to recover.
Keep your eyes open to the unseen – the person you see walking and smiling might have just struggled an hour to get ready for work, cried her way there and is hiding a very real invisible illness.
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