Who Cares?

Originally posted on Prohealth.com on October 8, 2016

whocaresWe have all done it. We have lied or told half truths when asked the question, “How are you?”.

How many people in our lives do we share our true level of pain we are feeling every day, physically and emotionally?

As I walk down the school hallways every day to refill my water bottle I pass a Teacher who always says “Hi!” and asks “How’s it going?

I smile (a forced smile), replying “Hi!, Good.”

I caught myself in my head the other day saying “Liar, Liar Pants on Fire”. I am anything but good.

When asked how are you by a co-worker or a store clerk it’s more of a common courtesy question. Am I being rude by not responding when asked how I am doing? Or is it okay, since they are not asking for real because “How are you?”, is simply a greeting not an invitation to unload your daily list of complaints.

Can you imagine if I replied, “My neck and back are causing me a new intense pain. It hurts to turn my head. It is causing headaches. I can’t get the right balance between not able to go to the bathroom or having to go to the bathroom ASAP. My right hand has started hurting when using scissors, etc. My knee feels like it is going out every time I try to stand. I had to be helped into the bathtub this weekend.”

If we began answering the truth how long would it take for that person to stop asking?

I get it. I have known people who tell everyone absolutely every negative detail in their lives. It gets old.

What about our family or the people that live with us?

Eventually for many of us those that we live with stop asking. Maybe they just assume they know the answer already. It doesn’t mean they have stopped caring.

My daughter is 16, she is busy surviving high school. I don’t expect it of her.

I mentioned to my husband awhile ago that he doesn’t ask me how I am feeling any more. He said, “I don’t have to, I can tell by how you get out of the chair and how you are walking.”

Ok, so he sees it but that really isn’t what is needed.

The past few weeks I have acquired new health problems and a very high level of pain. It has kept me from doing things that I would normally push through and has brought me to tears daily.

Then just this weekend we were hosting a cross country bon-fire and I was asked, “What do you need help with?” I muttered under my breath, “Just end it.”

It has crossed over the line of just physical pain and is now affecting my emotional well-being.
I am to the point where I have to let the truth out because if I keep answering “fine,” I will find myself on the road to depression.

Are we more likely to open up about physical pain than when we are feeling depressed?

I think it is easier or more acceptable for someone to comment “my knee has been killing me” than “emotionally/mentally I am …”

What if someone asked, “How are you today?”, and we replied, “I want to jump.”

Can you imagine how others would react? Instead, we answer fine, good or in my case on crummy days, “peachy”.

What if there is no one you can tell the whole truth? No one to listen to you cry? Crying alone is one thing but crying in a room with others without any reaction is being alone.

Often we stop sharing the truth when we answer because it is easier for us. It’s much harder to share our long list of ailments. We want to be polite. We don’t want to ruin the other person’s day. We don’t want to be “a downer” or “negative.”

Those living with chronic pain such as fibromyalgia often become isolated. It is so easy to focus on our pain. It’s easy to feeling alone when you can’t talk about how you are really doing.

Thank goodness for support groups where we can share the truth of how we’re really feeling.

Everyone needs someone in their lives where they can share the truth to the question…

“How are you.”

PillSuite is SWEET!


I was excited when the PillSuite box arrived at my house.  I love new ways to organize things and I didn’t even have to go searching for the right size & amount of batteries needed. I opened up the box and when I saw the sorter I honestly did not think that the compartments in the sorter would be big enough to hold all of my prescriptions & supplements.

pill sorter
The kit contained 400 “Suite” packets, a sorter and a sealer (batteries included).

It arrived just in time for me to get my medications & supplements ready for a weekend trip to my parents house.  I usually fill my morning, noon and night week containers and then have to put masking tape over them before I pack them so that I do not have medicine all over my bags.


Disclosure: “I have been given [this product] as part of a product review through the Chronic Illness Bloggers network. Although the product was a gift, all opinions in this review remain my own and I was in no way influenced by the company.”

How do you use your PillSuite system?

Step 1: Sort your pills (AM or PM) into the seven compartments of the sorter.

Step 2: Place one of the plastic packets over the funnel on the sorter. Tip the sorter sideways and the pills will flow easily into the plastic packets. Label the packet.

Step 3: Finally, using the sealer to seal the pill packet closed and you are done!


Why use PillSuite? 



It is a time saver.  You can sort more than just one week at a time.

Prior to using PillSuite I would have to sit down once a week and sort my pills into 2 different containers.  There were so many times when my 7 p.m. medicine reminder would go off and I would find that I had forgotten to sort my medicine.  Since using PillSuite I now sort 3 weeks at a time keeping the A.M. pill packets in one ziplock bag and my P.M. packets in another.



The packets make it easy to take exactly the pills you need.  It makes it so much easier than carrying all of the pill bottles in my bag. I can simply put a packet in my purse or even easier my pocket.  I have filled some of the packets with single doses of Advil, Midol and pain medications to have with me just in case.

When traveling you do not have to take all of your medication with you.  Even airlines are allowing passengers to travel without the medication being in the original container.

No more masking tape.  I always had to tape my medicine containers so that they would not accidentally open leading to loose pills in my bag. I have broken many containers trying to take off the tape and open just one day at a time.

The packets are biodegradable and  have perforated edges that make it very easy to tear open the packet.


I found the instructions were very easy to follow.  It took me awhile to get the hang of placing the bag on the funnel of the sorter and sliding the medication into the bag but after completing my first week it had become very easy.

I wanted to see if it would be easy for others so I asked a few people to try it for me.  They had the same experience that I did. It took a little time but then it was very easy to do.  It might be a bit difficult for someone with arthritis or shaky hands.

However, I think that it is a great way for someone who is a caregiver. They can easily sort and label the medication with the date & time it needs to be taken. The packets are easier to open than the plastic medicine containers. I found it was easier for me to label the packets before putting the pills in them.

I have now been using the PillSuite system for over a month and I am so happy that I was given the opportunity to try this product.  I have officially tossed the plastic containers and plan on continuing to use PillSuite.  Find out more about PillSuite at http://www.pillsuite.com/.


PillSuite is easy, convenient and portable. 

PillSuite is SWEET!





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