Not too little, Not too much, Just enough (is that possible)?

“The Gift of Balance in Your Life – May you find the balance of life, time for work but also time for play. Too much of one thing ends up creating stress that no one needs in their life.” – Catherine Pulsifer

We are always being told to find that perfect balance. I have friends who their job is to help others find that perfect balance to help them figure out how to commit time and keep the commitments. I have always been someone who once I have decided to do something goes 100% (maybe a bit too much). I don’t always remember when I should say no or rest.

I had not been getting enough sleep or exercise. My body sent me into a very miserable flare this past week. Instead of traveling 4 1/2 hours to stay with my Grandma for the weekend I decided to stay home.

My family went on their scheduled trips and I was left home alone with the 3 cats.

During those 4 days, I housed up totally in the bedroom(something I have never done). Our bed has the ergo feature, I was able to sit up, have the lap top, my cell phone, NCIS marathon, the cats to keep me company, who could ask for anything more. I stayed in the dark room except for the restroom and refrigerator. I didn’t eat well at all and def did not drink enough water. I slept so much. I honestly can’t recall sleeping so much ever.

Saturday was the only day that I ventured out of the house. I went to work, ran a few errands, took a nap, went out to dinner with a gf and back to sleep again.

Sunday was a repeat of sleeping and staying in the room. On Sunday night when my Husband came home my pain and depression was the highest I can remember.

On Monday morning when I woke up I left my bed only to end up on the couch and asleep again. I woke up an hour later in even more pain.

I began to cry and couldn’t stop.

I started to ramble all of my frustrations coming out at once. “I don’t know how much more I can take”.

I understand why altho my neighbor/friend has lost the love of his life how he is getting some relief. Someone said how she had suffered with Fibromyalgia for 30 years. His comment was he himself had it for that long as well. He hadn’t personally suffered the pain and exhaustion. But he had watched his love suffer, had been there to offer what ever help she needed, had lost sleep etc for just as long as she had. He can now do things such as cleaning and redoing the house that he couldn’t do before. Altho she was unable to physically do the cleaning herself. She was adamant that other people not do it. He must feel some pressure off his very strong wonderful shoulders.

I said it would be easier if they didn’t have to deal with all of this.  Our daughter was trying to convince me via text that she should be able to bring home a puppy.  I kept saying no for various reasons.  I couldn’t tell her that I was lying on the floor in extreme pain, crying, couldn’t remember to take my meds, and the bills ~ ugh.  Will they get worse each time? I wish I knew how to answer that question.

Once I got through the tears; I decided to get up and get dressed. I had a long list of things to get done a daughter coming home and needed to get moving.

Just the few days that I had spent in the dark room, not moving had caused me to feel worse. I know that I feel better when I am moving. The act of me getting dressed, doing the laundry, working on bills, being active helped not only decrease the pain but improve my mental state. I spent the day taking turns between doing chores and resting.

We are always hearing how we need to find that perfect balance whether it is work/play, the food groups, or active and rest. Balance may not only be the key to a happy life but a lower pain filled life.

“Life is best enjoyed when time periods are evenly divided between labor, sleep, and recreation..all people should spend one-third of their time in recreation which is rebuilding, voluntary activity, never idleness.”Brigham Young

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4 thoughts on “Not too little, Not too much, Just enough (is that possible)?”

  1. The balance in our lives is up to us I argree we have things to do and hurt yet if dont get up to do them and just lay there our bodies hurt more… Being postive and produtive helps alot more than dome realize. Just learn to pace yarself…. I have had fibro almost 30 yrs and been through all the stages…. The best one is acceptance!! Mindset willingness for to go on with Hope and fight being a Warrior and not letting Fibro rule your life:)!! Thank You love your article Sorry if I ranted on..

  2. What you are going thru is normal. It sucks – but it’s normal for fibromyalgia. As for your 4 day stay in your bedroom – Good For You!
    Take care of yourself first! If you don’t take care of yourself, there will be nothing left for your family, friends, lovers….
    Some days I wake up and the pain is soo bad, I barf for several hours in the morning before I can keep down a pain pill. Got so bad last year they started giving me suppositories for pain and another for then nausea. Lost 60lbs over the past year. On these days I go back to bed and take lots of narcotics to kill the pain and hopefully go back to sleep. Yes – There is something very relaxing about sitting in bed, no noise, pitch black. Not very productive, but it works.

  3. You are a wonderful writer! I retired about 16 months ago. I was a primary teacher. My principal wanted me on my feet moving around the classroom constantly. My doctor wanted me to have my feet up every two hours. My principal wanted me to write narrative lesson plans and the typing was painful. My principal would tell my students to walk faster, I was unable to walk faster. I have arthritis all over my body. I am fighting knee replacements. I have athsma, environmental and food allergies, several tummy woes, degenerative disc disease, sciatica, and sleep apnea. I have not been diagnosed with FM, but fit the profile. Good luck!

  4. i have Fibmyaligia for three years now,the pain had been so bad that i could not get off the sofa i would out to my boyfriend to get my pills that only a few feet from me, it,s feel like bugs under my skin,some times only a few hours other all night one night i went bed like normal and woke up scramming crying my boy friend didn’t know what to do for me i just sit up and cry for hour then i got my med ,i could not go back to sleep ,i don’t sleep like normal i take cat nap even when i not in pain, i cant do any thing like i use to cook clean go out side and work in the yard,i play on the computer for a few hours then on the sofa my legs hurt in the calf a lot i don’t know if it is fib or not i do have degenerative disc disease,i wish pain go away i try to push myself to do things but it so hard,when i can i go to pt that help me a lot i have more energy but it cost to go and i don’t have the money water is the best for fib person some times i get in the shower hot water on my legs then jump in bed and cover up that help me if any with fibmyaligia have any suggestion to help me get though the pain so i can be more active please e-mail me at right now i not moving much because of pain i need help thank you Jana Purkey

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