The day that I started to write this article it was an amazing coincidence I was watching 60 minutes with a interview with an expert on mindfulness. I reached down into the basket I keep next to my living room chair and pulled out the his CD. I had purchased it well over a year ago when I had been told probably for the third time by my friend that I should try it.
As we watched the report on 60 minutes I told my family that this is what I am supposed to be doing. I have tried it and had not been successful at it.
I can not count how many speakers or friends have told me to try mindfulness. Try asking a Type A person with ADD to lay down, shut your mind off and concentrate on your breathing while releasing each part of your body.
I was getting stressed out just trying relax. My mind would wander to the noises being made in our living room, the things I needed to do, then “STOP IT” “CONCENTRATE”. “Relax, breathe, shoulders, arms, “need to email the Volleyball parents” Ugh!!!
Each and every time I would try to relax I would get so stressed because I couldn’t focus on only my breathing and relaxing my body.
Dr. Michael Olpin is a professor of Health Promotion at Weber State University and is the director of WSU’s Health Promotion Program. He is also director of the WSU Stress Relief Center. He earned his Ph.D. in Health Education from SIU, and his Master’s and bachelor’s degrees in Health Promotion and Psychology from BYU.
We were told his focus is stress management, mind/body wellness, mental & emotional wellness, and wellness coaching.
He said “a nice quiet room is best” and to forget using relaxation tapes like sounds from the rainforest.
He sat in his chair, closed his eyes, exhaled and let his body relax. “Silently focus and repeat a specific word for 10-20 minutes. This word you choose is called your mantra. Choose a single calming word like peace, serene, silence. He chose the word (one). Allow your mind to whisper your mantra over and over at a pace of about one repetition every 3-4 seconds”
He softly said the word 1 took a slight pause and then repeated the process 1..1..1…
He was in the middle of counting and started talking the thoughts that had popped into his head. “I need to remember to call so and so and I need to do…. Then when he realized he had loss focus he stopped and began again 1….1…1
What he said next was the turning point for me. “It is okay for your mind to wander”. “The important thing is to not get upset if you lose focus”.
Once you realize that you have lost your focus just start again 1..1..1
It was ok if I my mind wandered? Someone just told me I didn’t have to be perfect.
Then it was our turn… Softly he said
“Close your eyes, let your breath out, feel your body go limp and start counting 1,1,1.
Okay for the next 5 minutes we are going to try it.
Sitting in this uncomfortable chair in a conference room with all these people my body actually began to relax.
Yes, it did wander but as soon as I caught myself I started again.
“Slowly return to normal waking consciousness. Take at least 2 minutes to return.”
I had finally discovered something that worked for me. I needed to have someone tell me it was okay to get off track without stressing about it. Also, like every other treatment, medication, diet we have to keep trying new things until we find the right one that fits us. I now have success with the CD’s that I had stressed out every time I had tried.
The last issue of the NFMCPA’s magazine Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Life’s Winter 2014 issue has a very informative and helpful article by Kim Jones and Mary Casselberry.
In addition to Dr. Michael Olpin’s website and his books ~ “Unwind; 7 principles for a Stress-Free Life & “The World is Not a Stressful Place; Stress relief for everyone” my friends also recommend Jon Kabat-Zinn ~ Full Catastrophe Living Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face the Stress, Pain and Illness .http://www.mindfulnesscds.com/ and Bernie Siegel @ www.BernieSiegelM.D.com/tag/and-mindfulness-meditation.
It seems that everywhere I turn someone is talking, tweeting or blogging about the benefits of Mindfulness. I don’t know about everyone else but my life is so busy once I trained myself on how to do it finding the time was the next hurdle. I found the time. I chose to practice mindfulness during the time that I am waiting in my car for my Teenager after practices and games, in my office at school during my lunch and even as I soak in the bathtub. It is a cold winter and I do need to find time ways to help my body get through until Spring and Mindfulness is one of those ways.
I am a Fibro Warrior ~ Living Life!